I was up at 5am for one of those crazy 6am indoor soccer games for my 12 year old son. We followed that with a 7:40am game for my 13 year old. We could still zip off to church after all of that. But nonetheless, these are the types of mornings you definitely ask why we do this thing called sports.
Hey, let's face it. Most of us have this dream that our kids are going to grow up and be some world class athlete--Olympics, Gold Cup, World Series, Pro Bowl, etc. I know I had that dream growing up.
But the reality is that most of our kids aren't going to grow up and play professionally. And it's not that they don't try hard enough, or that they didn't get started early enough, or went to enough special practices and clinics. No, it's more basic than that. There's some things that can't be taught: speed, quickness, lung capacity. I have a friend who literally can run 100 miles--he does long distance racing. That's how God designed him. When I was 15, I was one of the better pitchers in my league, but when I was a sophomore, I came to high school tryouts and found that one of my fellow competitors was now throwing a 90mph fastball. Those things aren't taught. They are gifts from God.
So where is all this going? Back to the question, we play sports because it is good for our kids. It builds character. It teaches toughness. But let's keep it in perspective. It's only a game and most won't play professionally.
For that reason, it's important that we select our coaches and leagues carefully. We want coaches and leagues that will best reflect the values we want to instill in our kids. It is not all about the level of competition. I'd rather have a coach of character than a coach who screams and yells but is great technically.
What are the marks of a great coach? It seems to me that Jim Collins book, Good to Great, illustrates what we look for in a great coach. We look for those who reflect great humility and service. At that same time, they reflect the value of great personal will. These are people who are perhaps not always the most animated. Sometimes they are even shy. They do not brag about their own accomplishments. Instead, they seem to lift up others first. They find a way to make people feel successful right where they are at. As the adage goes, they use "more honey than salt." But they are not pushoevers. They demand excellence, but they don't call for it through authoritarian means.
These are the same marks we look for in the league leadership. We look for people who are ready to serve. They care about doing it right and making it right.
We may not all be professional athletes but we will all be citizens. Choose carefully those who help formulate your citizenship.
--William High is a freelance writer.